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Wednesday, June 09, 2004

Tick . . . tick . . . tick. We're down to three days before Matt and Jenna's wedding. Bets are currently being taken on how long it takes in the ceremony before I become a slobbering idiot. I don't mind being emotional. But it's hard to speak AND sob. A tear is fine; getting choked up is understandable. But sobbing can be a bit of a distraction. Standing in front of me will be my older son (groom), my younger son (best man), and the bride (whom we deeply love). In addition I just found out that as Diane comes down the aisle, escorted by Matt, she'll be lighting a candle in memory of Megan. I think someone who's planning the wedding has entered the gambling pool and has put big money down on a major sobfest in the first two minutes. Please pray for me, dear Blog Friends.


  • I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and say five minutes. And based on the fathers I've observed at their children's weddings in the past, I'd say that's an extremely generous allowance. ^_~


    But you could always find someone to actually speak the words while you just kinda stand there, nodding and sobbing. Kinda like Moses and Aaron, only...not.

    By Blogger Q, at 6/09/2004 10:47:00 AM  

  • Mike, your soft heart is your, in my humble opinion, greatest attribute to your preaching. If you sob - you sob; and so be it. God will speak to everyone in attendance through your tears.

    On a side note: I'm not sure he would be able to use snot dripping from your nose though. You might want to cram some cotton up there just to be on the safe side.

    My advice would be to just stock the tux with plenty of Kleenex and get ready to sob. You might want to tell your make up guy that you will need some water proof eye liner too. Thats what I do in those "high sob probability" situations.

    By Blogger Joel Quile, at 6/09/2004 10:56:00 AM  

  • My prayers go with you. It helps that you are doing this with and for people who know you. The thing that is making you emotional is the reason you can be. Makes minor fumbles into tender and funny moments. My dad did mine and Rachel's wedding and had a moment where he looked at me very seriously and emotionally and said "Remember son, you are called to be served more than to serve." This was quickly followed by Rachel's "wait a minute." Good fun for all. My dad, as you may know, isn't the most emotional guy in the world (he's not Al Gore, but he's reserved) but those moments when he teared up, choked up, etc. only added to how special the occasion was. You'll do great. God blessings on you and your family and on Matt and his marriage.

    By Blogger chrismith, at 6/09/2004 11:04:00 AM  

  • My dad did our wedding, too, And it had it's moments.

    Dad said, "When people think of Tina and Nim..." Um... that's Nina and Tim, Pops!

    Our minister at the time said, "When you remember this day, July 17, 1991..." Okay, it's August 17th. And I though I was the only one confounded by my bride's beauty!

    It also had the moment when Dad looked at me and said, "Your mother and I are very proud of you." Not a dry eye in the house. Or at least on the groom.

    By Blogger Tim Castle, at 6/09/2004 11:10:00 AM  

  • Sweet tears by another other name are still sweet.

    May these moments be not only sweet, but also a wonderful testimony to a life (lives) lived in faithfulness.

    By Blogger Kyle, at 6/09/2004 11:42:00 AM  

  • Our wedding was pretty small, with only family and a few friends in attendance, but it was nice.

    The sobability (what is it with this blog's commenters creating new words?) was cut down in large part due to the wedding coordinator from Hades. But, at least the mutual hatred of this woman allowed both sides of the family to have something to talk about!

    I don't even have kids yet but I cry whenever I think about walking my daughter down the aisle. At least I think about crying...I don't actually sit in my office and cry...

    By Blogger Greg Kendall-Ball, at 6/09/2004 11:45:00 AM  

  • Mike, as you may remember since you performed our wedding, I was a sobbing fool when Sheryl came down the aisle. My best man, Stephen Bailey, put a hand on my shoulder at one point to steady me. It honestly helped. Maybe you should work out a cue with Chris. We HATE that we can't be there. We'll be thinking of you all week and weekend. Please hug Matt for us.
    Love, Brandon

    By Blogger Brandon Scott, at 6/09/2004 12:36:00 PM  

  • Mike,

    Last night as I was opening a new bar of Lever 2000 in the shower, I immediately thought of you. No amount of scrubbing could make me feel clean at that point.

    Perhaps Saturday night, when you're about to lose it, you should visualize me in the shower thinking of you.

    That should do it.

    By Blogger Grant, at 6/09/2004 02:30:00 PM  

  • I was busy goofing off and being silly earlier that I forgot to offer my very real congratulations and best wishes for all the families involved. My brother and his wife celebrated their first anniversary this week, June 7. As much as I love the girl he married and as happy as I was (and am) for them, I sobbed like an idiot when they got married; smeared makeup all over my brother's white tux top. He and I'd been best friends for a long time. (he was gonna make me best man till he figured out the complications with that one, so I wound up a bride's maid instead) Now she's his best friend and that's as it should be. Plus, now Jodi, the woman I've loved as a friend and Christian sister for many years is now part of my physical family.

    Anyway, best wishes to all of you. I'll be praying, particularly the day of, that you cry as much as is needed, but don't manage to forcibly baptize the entire auditorium via a neo-noachian flood. Keep a hanky or 10 close.

    By Blogger Q, at 6/09/2004 08:30:00 PM  

  • There are some of us who rate weddings by the cry factor--the more tears, the better the wedding. As I told Diane last night, whatever happens won't matter five years down the road. I believe it is going to be a spectular occasion of love and blessing.
    Judy Thomas

    By Blogger judy thomas, at 6/10/2004 06:51:00 AM  

  • I LOVE GRANT BOONE!! Hilarious. Yes, Mike, do think about that.

    By Blogger Brandon Scott, at 6/10/2004 10:55:00 AM  

  • Sob like a madman and let the chips/tears fall where they may. Get your money's worth. You've earned the right! I plan to join the sobfest when I take my oldest child to kindergarten this fall. No apologies or explanations needed for being tender-hearted.

    Much love and prayers headed your way! (Technically, the LOVE heads your way. The prayers on your behalf head elsewhere.)

    Now to relax and visualize Grant Boone. Too bad I don't drink hard liquor. I could use a stiff belt.

    By Blogger Matt Elliott, at 6/10/2004 11:42:00 AM  

  • No, don't cry, Mike! Make your voice crack, sound like you really want to, but don't! God heard my prayer and I didn't cry (and I was the groom's mom and had every reason to cry) and I could enjoy the moment so much better- not to mention being able to see still! Ah, heck, just enjoy it all, and if you cry some, so be it.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 6/11/2004 08:22:00 AM  

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    By Blogger David Michael, at 6/12/2004 09:39:00 AM  

  • Tears flow when our mind doesn't know what to do with our heart.

    By Blogger David Michael, at 6/12/2004 09:40:00 AM  

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