Mike Cope's blog

Thursday, September 23, 2004

You may have noticed: I have a bald spot. I don't see it often because it's in the back of my head. But sometimes I'll catch it in a mirror and, of course, I can feel skin rather than hair. It doesn't bother me one bit. I joke about it quite often. But it wasn't always that way. It was a very big deal to me when I first realized, at about age 20, that hair wasn't staying put back there. All through my twenties, I worried about it. Is that another advantage of aging? Now I'm thinking, "It's just hair. It falls out now or maggots eat it later. But it's just hair." I think you also realize as you age that NOBODY CARES. You get past thinking that people notice and/or care. On those rare moments when my priorities are lined up properly, I appreciate Paul's perspective: that though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.

14 Comments:

  • I think it is definate advantage to aging to realize nobody cares! It IS just hair, just wrinkles, just UGLY BROWN SPOTS! But nobody cares, and people either like you or they don't. How you look does not play into the equation!

    By Blogger DJG, at 9/23/2004 06:45:00 AM  

  • I never understood the whole hair thing until it looked like I'd lose mine.

    I've always liked my hair, but losing it wasn't really a "real and present danger" growing up so it wasn't something I really worried about. I was surprised, though, that when my doctor first mentioned chemo, my first question wasn't whether it'd make me sick, whether I'd be able to keep working or anything practical like that: I wondered whether I'd lose my hair. The prospect hit me a lot harder than I would have imagined. It wasn't even really a vanity thing, either. I mean, I like my hair, but it's not that big a deal. It was more what it ultimately symbolized.

    I didn't lose my hair. But I think I understand a little better why it can be a big deal to some. And I find myself having far fewer "bad" hair days -- or at least complaining about fewer. ^_~

    By Blogger Q, at 9/23/2004 07:02:00 AM  

  • What's up? Three posts in a row with a mention of aging. Do we have some issues we need to talk about, hmmmmmmm?

    By the way, I looked at your blog photo from the back of my monitor to see if I could see your bald spot. It doesn't show. I wouldn't worry about it.

    By Blogger don, at 9/23/2004 07:15:00 AM  

  • And here alal the time I thought it was a yarmulke! ^_~

    By Blogger Kathy, at 9/23/2004 07:23:00 AM  

  • I once heard Tony Campolo make a comment about his baldness. It went something like this:

    "Do you have any idea how much testosterone it takes to grow hair? Hey, if you want to use all your testosterone growing hair, that's YOUR problem!"

    I'm balding, too. I thought I would care more than I do. Like you, it bugged me early on, but what you say is true -- no one cares. And it's not like I'd be some hunk if I had all my hair, anyway! :-)

    By Blogger Matt Elliott, at 9/23/2004 07:57:00 AM  

  • Rabbi Mike,

    Have you thought ever about wearing a "Yarmulke?"

    David

    By Blogger David Michael, at 9/23/2004 08:18:00 AM  

  • You're right, Mike. Our outward appearance isn't what counts. So praise the Lord and pass the Twinkies before Wonder Bread goes out of business!

    Sing with me!

    "The Twinkies go down as the hair falls out.
    The Twinkies go down as the hair falls out.
    The Twinkies go down as the hair falls out, and the foolish man's abs aren't firm. Ohhhhhhh..."

    By Blogger Grant, at 9/23/2004 08:31:00 AM  

  • I have the same problem (balding spot in the back). I have some friends who just completely accepted it and shaved their heads. That seems like a better thing to do than trying to hide it by rearranging the five hairs that are left.

    Signed,

    Future Kojack

    By Blogger Jeff Slater, at 9/23/2004 08:43:00 AM  

  • Mike--you've known of Sheryl's desire for years to draw a smiley face on your head so that we can see it as you preach--since we usually are sitting behind you and never get to see your nice face. I think this is the year to pull out the Sharpy and go for it.

    By Blogger Brandon Scott, at 9/23/2004 08:52:00 AM  

  • Jeff, didn't you shave your head a few years ago?

    By Blogger don, at 9/23/2004 11:03:00 AM  

  • BST -- Better be careful, man. To my ears (which have more hair than my head!), that sounds suspiciously like "Go down thou bald head!"

    Watch out for she-bears!

    By Blogger Tim Castle, at 9/23/2004 12:14:00 PM  

  • Mike,

    Thanks for reminding me how vain I am. What's next? I suppose you're going to tell me that what I wear doesn't matter in the big scheme of things. Or what I drive. Or where I live... Because...they too will be consumed by maggots.

    Dang Maggots.

    Speaking of maggots...nice comment Boone - "The Crickets came up as the joke came down..."

    Anyway, I just wanted you to know Mike that your security added to my insecurity and made me realize how far I have to go on this journey of becoming like Christ. I thought that kind of guilt could only be accomplished by your preaching, but no, God is now using even your blog to convict the world of sin.

    Dang Maggots!

    I'll see you tomorrow for lunch. I'll be a new man by then thanks to your blog. I'll be the one with his hair combed straight back (not over - because, hey who cares right?), wearing something tight (to show off my 1 pack of abs that NOBODY cares about), from the 80's (because, hey it still fits and besides, I’m just wasting away anyway), and driving something stylish like a Pacer or Gremlin (the vehicle of choice for maggots!)

    Dang Maggots!

    By Blogger Joel Quile, at 9/23/2004 12:22:00 PM  

  • Hey Don -- you still remember that? We had a great weekend when you and Ross Cochran came up. Yes, they did shave my head. It was fun, but I don't know if I would do that again. You can read about it here: http://www.christianchronicle.org/0012/p05a1.asp

    Jeff

    By Blogger Jeff Slater, at 9/24/2004 06:16:00 AM  

  • A comedian (wish I could remember who) said his hair wasn't falling out, just finding new places to show up.

    I'm going through the same thinning process. I'm fine with it. I don't like the feeling of wind blowing my hair all over the place (issues from living in Lubbock). Once my hair's gone, I can finally get that convertible my wife likes!

    By Blogger James, at 9/25/2004 07:51:00 PM  

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