To fill a braindead evening recently, Diane and I watched "In Good Company." (As always, please refer to screenit.com to make decisions about whether you want to watch a movie or not.) While it isn't a great movie, it's more than we thought. Based on the commercials we'd seen, we thought it was primarily a comedy about a young executive falling in love with the college-age daughter of one of the men working under him--a man twice his age whose place he took at the top of the firm. But it isn't really about the young exec (Topher Grace) and the student (Scarlett Johansson). It's about how this high-octane, 26-year-old man who was never really parented winds up being fathered by this older man (Dennis Quaid). There's a scene where Quaid hugs him that is the highlight of the movie. Everyone needs to be fathered (and mothered). For many, this doesn't happen with their biological dad. Some never knew their dads; others rarely saw them; and still others had dads who themselves hadn't been fathered and didn't have much to give. But there are other older men who can provide some of this fathering -- even later in life. I'm thinking especially of godly men who can model respect, responsibility, and faith. Men who teach school, coach little league, volunteer for the band trips, teach the high school class at church, work with the Scouts, etc. As I sneak up on 50 (in fourteen months and eleven days!), I realize that there are younger men all around who need affirmation, encouragement, and guidance. I think you can't go around volunteering to be someone's "other dad" or "other mom," but when the opportunity is there you'll know it. It's an amazing thing, but one hug, one note, one word of encouragement can change a life. To receive a blessing from an older man or woman is a great gift. In the movie, the young exec realizes that he is on the fast track to emptiness. But he sees in this older man a person who is grounded, a man who deeply loves his family and is loyal to friends. By the end of the film, you realize it wasn't the beautiful blonde he needed in his life. It was her father. So blessings on you this weekend -- those of you who have become like moms and dads or like grandmas and grandpas in the lives of others.