Mike Cope's blog

Monday, November 21, 2005

Every school day now, Chris is at 7th grade basketball practice early in the morning at Lincoln Middle School. Eleven years ago today, that's exactly where Matt was when I went to pick him up. I found one of the coaches and said, "Matt's sister is going to die in the next few hours, so I need to take him up to the hospital." He and I drove to Hendrick together as I explained that this was going to be Megan's last day. And at 10:16 that morning, she took her last breath. Here's what I wrote on this blog two years ago (changing only the number of years): Megan Diane Cope died eleven years ago today. Who -- in our success-driven world -- would want her genetic make-up? She was, after all, mentally retarded. And yet . . . she changed our worlds. She was a quiet, loving witness to the gospel. She was an incarnation of God's love. She received whatever gifts of service we offered to her without expecting more. She embodied the truth of 2 Corinthians 4:7: "But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us." Her ten years here were too short. So today, again, we grieve her absence, and we look forward to seeing her again to thank her for helping to set our worlds right.


  • Mike, our heart goes out to you and Diane today. Your love for your Megan is an inspiration to all of us.

    One thing I have learned from Mesoamerican culture is how they celebrate dia de los muertos (day of the dead). It is such a powerful celebration of the memory of loved ones that have passed on. It is a family and community event. They really honor their loved ones. I don't think we have anything like it in our culture. Too bad.

    Be loved and comforted on this day.

    By Blogger Paul, at 11/21/2005 04:02:00 AM  

  • Mike,

    The first time I heard you speak, you mentioned that it was close to the anniversary of Megan's death. You were speaking in Montgomery, AL and that Sunday changed the way I looked at worship. Thank you for making Megan real to all of us and thanks for helping me see that there are many ways to worship our Father.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 11/21/2005 04:39:00 AM  

  • My little Annie has just started singing "I'm in the Lord's Army." She only does two parts -- "I may never" followed by a hearty "Yes, sir!"

    I thought of Megan.

    By Blogger Matt Elliott, at 11/21/2005 04:56:00 AM  

  • It is amazing how she is still impacting lives. Thank you for sharing her with those of us who never had the honor of meeting her on this side of heaven.

    By Blogger DJG, at 11/21/2005 05:37:00 AM  

  • I have no words....

    But I have lots and lots of memeories! Thank you for unselfishly sharing her with us then and now! Big hugs to Diane!

    By Blogger SG, at 11/21/2005 06:02:00 AM  

  • I have a copy of a lesson you presented at Zoe one year when you talked extensively about Meagan. I've listened to that lesson more times than I can count. I've shared that lesson with so many. Meagan's legacy is a legacy of faith and love. I want to personally thank you for being willing to share your journey in grief with so many of us. You have taught us so much through your emotional retelling of Meagan's story. In all things God be praised.

    By Blogger Snapshot, at 11/21/2005 06:13:00 AM  

  • Wow. Thanks for sharing. May this day be an excellent one.

    By Blogger Agent B, at 11/21/2005 06:51:00 AM  

  • Megan was full of life! She was in the Lord's Army--I remember hearing her singing that with gusto. I agree with Paul. It's good to remember. Love to you guys--all of you.

    By Blogger Brandon Scott, at 11/21/2005 07:29:00 AM  

  • Thanks, Mike. Our hearts are with you and your family.
    Grace and Peace,

    By Blogger cathy moore, at 11/21/2005 07:33:00 AM  

  • Mike,

    This morning, I was caught off guard by your post. Another year has past so quickly.

    After reading your blog, it seemed that the morning paused, slowing down until this moment of loss and grief was acknowledged. Death surrounding my own life has been surreal. It is difficult to grieve unreality. Your words bring clarity and comfort, perspective and peace. I am thankful that Megan changed your world, because this morning through your memoriam, she helped change mine.

    By Blogger David Michael, at 11/21/2005 07:34:00 AM  

  • Mike,
    Kayci and I are so grateful for the stories that we continue to hear from you about Megan. We feel like we know her. We wish we did. She was a girl of great faith. Thank you for sharing.

    By Blogger Josh Ross, at 11/21/2005 08:32:00 AM  

  • I was at "The House That Kerry Built" in July with our Kadesh group and I saw Megan's picture on the wall. I felt her spirit there that day in the vibrant, energetic children that society has labeled as having something "wrong" with them. How cool it is when a bunch of kids prove society wrong. Megan was one of them -- never caring a day in her ten years what anyone thought. How different the world would be if we could all be the same way. Oprah would be out of a job, for one.

    God's perfect peace today and always to you, Diane, Matt and Chris.

    By Blogger Deana Nall, at 11/21/2005 08:35:00 AM  

  • May God bless you, Diane, and your boys on this day of remembrance for your family. It is through these memories that our departed loved ones live on. Your post made me wonder what it was like for Jesus’ Disciples on the one year anniversary of his death and there after. I’m sure like you; they kept his memory alive not only through his spirit living in them but through the stories they re-told to each other.

    By Blogger cwinwc, at 11/21/2005 08:50:00 AM  

  • Mike, thanks for being so transparent with us. Please know that you are not alone.....all of us are with you, Diane, Matt and Chris in spirit.

    I loved Megan.

    By Blogger David U, at 11/21/2005 08:57:00 AM  

  • Thank you for sharing your treasured daughter's story with us. The missing never stops, but the hope keeps growing to cover it.

    By Blogger Katrina, at 11/21/2005 09:56:00 AM  

  • I was aquainted with you and Diane in Searcy, attending a ladies prayer group in your house for a short time. I remeber Megan. She did not want to wear her glasses. Diane pateintly placed them back on her head over and over again. I wonder if God keeps placing spiritual glasses on us when culture and flesh distort our vision. I am thankful for the lives of Megan and Jessica (David and Susanne's daughter) and the lessons God allows them to teach us.

    By Blogger jlane, at 11/21/2005 11:45:00 AM  

  • Mike
    As I turned the calendar to November first, I remembered your blog entry last year saying this is the time your "beloved" disappears. That you know she will reappear, but she just seems to fade away during these days.

    This year I hold y'all closer after another year of knowing you better and this year again I mourn with you the loss of a child I am never to know until we are together in eternity.

    Your whole family is in my prayers especially today. May I say it takes a very special person that can share so generously and openly love, grief and joy, all wrapped up in the memory of your treasured daughter.

    I send my love and hugs to each of you.

    By Blogger Kathy, at 11/21/2005 12:50:00 PM  

  • Mike,
    My mother (Beth James) still talks so sweetly about Megan and all their time in the 2-3 year old department at the college church. She loved her and all of her struggles. I also remember being in your wife's 6th grade bible class and having Megan as the center of our, "answered prayers" board. Today your blog brought back so many wonderful memories for me about your Megan. What a special Angel we all had in our lives that we can see again someday.

    By Blogger Jenn, at 11/21/2005 01:55:00 PM  

  • Mike and Diane, before I knew and loved the two of you I loved Megan. I loved her from your words and your emotion. Her story touched me and she became real through you. I now know and love both of you and Chris and now I feel deeply the loss that you have experienced. Love you and holding you up today and always.

    By Blogger julie, at 11/21/2005 06:19:00 PM  

  • I never made it to the phone today to call and tell you guys that I was thinking about you, but I have been all day. I've been lifting you up in prayer every time I remembered what day it was (which was often). I have very vague memories of Megan, and there have been many times that I wish I could remember more about her. However, I feel like I know her even better through all of the stories I have heard over the years. Her eyes are what I remember the most, always so full of love.

    Give Diane a hug for me. I love all of you guys so much!

    By Blogger Heather A, at 11/21/2005 08:33:00 PM  

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