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Thursday, February 23, 2006

Earlier this week I wrote a post for this morning, knowing I wouldn't have time today. It's the one I posted earlier. But now I'm going to stop and take the time to post again. Kerri Lane died last night. She was an amazing woman--a godly mom raising two of the sweetest girls in the world (kindergarten and 4th grade) by herself. This past summer, in the midst of her battle with melanoma, she wrote these words as she meditated on the word "dance": Dancing With God When i meditated on the word Guidance, i kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word. i remember reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one person realizes that, and lets the other lead, both bodies begin to flow with the music. One gives gentle cues, perhaps with a nudge to the back or by pressing lightly in one direction or another. It's as if two become one body, moving beautifully. The dance takes surrender, willingness, and attentiveness from one person and gentle guidance and skill from the other. My eyes drew back to the word Guidance. When i saw "G: i thought of God, followed by "u" and "i". "God, "u" and "i" "dance." God, you, and i dance. As i lowered my head, i became willing to trust that i would get guidance about my life. Once again, i became willing to let God lead. My prayer for you today is that God's blessings and mercies be upon you on this day and everyday. May you abide in God as God abides in you. Dance together with God, trusting God to lead and to guide you through each season of your life. Prayer is one of the best gifts we can receive. There is no cost but a lots of rewards; so let's continue to pray for one another. i hope you dance...and let Him lead! And now, I hope you're dancing, my dear friend. Thank you for being Jesus among us. We'll never be the same.


  • What beautiful words we can live by. Thank you for sharing that with us today.

    By Blogger Meredith, at 2/23/2006 07:12:00 AM  

  • Dancing with the stars.

    By Blogger Clint, at 2/23/2006 07:12:00 AM  

  • A couple posts were already made about Kerri on my earlier piece. Please check them out. Here's what Clint had written:

    If any one wants healing it’s me. Yet I would not trade my pain for the love I shared with Kerri and her precious girls. When I was first hurt Carlee and Jolee would never miss an opportunity to hug me. I cannot tell you the healing power of a pure innocent hug. Kerri’s blog is on my favorites list right above Mike’s. I go by her sight several times a day and lift her and her girls up. I will continue to do that and pray fervently for Carlee and Jolee. Kerri has fulfilled my dream, to honor God in life and death. I pray that I can honor Kerri by smothering her two precious angels with all my love. God, may Carlee and Jolee always know the love your servant Kerri had for you. And I also love and pray for her loving friend Lenda. Rod I can hear you singing.

    By Blogger Mike, at 2/23/2006 07:26:00 AM  

  • Amen, Clint, Amen

    By Blogger Randy, at 2/23/2006 07:53:00 AM  

  • What a beautiful thought. An eloquent allegory to remind us of our role in the dance. Thank you Mike for Kerri's words of wisdom.

    By Blogger Terri, at 2/23/2006 08:00:00 AM  

  • I heard this news this morning and then after reading your blog, I am so sorry I did not know Kerri.

    After reading this blog, this is especially true since I have just taken six weeks of ballroom dancing with my husband! I had to learn not to lead and follow his lead. What a great story she wrote and so true. Thanks for sharing this with us.


    By Blogger pegc, at 2/23/2006 08:37:00 AM  

  • Mike,

    I wanted to contact you personally to make you aware of something - and maybe it just came across that it was an original work of Kerri's when that was not the intention. But there is not an email on your profile. So, if you want to just note this and then delete my comment, that would be fine.

    I love this meditation - I came across it in an email I received three years ago and shared it at a brunch that I spoke at. Because Kerri was meditating on these words - it truly shows you where her heart was - dancing with God!

    By Blogger Melanie Morales, at 2/23/2006 09:20:00 AM  

  • I have read several Highland memeber's blogs this morning and my heart mourns with you. I am so hoping that there is a plan for the girls to be taken care of, but am sure, knowing your church family, that there is!
    We have all had or witnessed prayers for healing not be answered the way we hope in this life. It is crushing and hard to take.
    I have to say though that some of the people I admire most and have gained the most wisdom and love from over the years, are people who went on in faith when the healings didn't come. You and Diane, Jack and Ann Griggs, Charles and Sharon Small, and Jamie and Bryan Hackney come to mind. People who lost a precious child despite pleas for healing, yet went on in faith through the hurting, loss, and times of breaking down and crying out. I pray for comfort and strength for the Highland family. I'm thankful that those two little girls have a great legacy of love and faithfulness to take with them where ever they go in life. God bless you all as you say goodbye to this sweet sister.

    By Blogger SG, at 2/23/2006 10:45:00 AM  

  • If I had to give one word that would describe Kerri, it would be joy. No matter the circumstance, she always brought joy.

    Perhaps only a few people know this--on Wednesday nights, before she became ill, Kerri and Linda Jensen would stand in the aisle at the back of Highland's auditorium, both wearing rediculously large sunglasses, in an attempt to get me to laugh (while I was singing on the praise team). I would try to concentrate on the words, but inevitably, a smile would come, and they would find their "victory."

    I know that Kerri is free of her physical burden, and that is a good thing. But we are left without her, and it is hard for me to see any good in that, at least for now.

    May God give us all a little measure of Kerri's joy as we meander through our grief.

    By Blogger Mimi Barnard, at 2/23/2006 10:50:00 AM  

  • It may be miles and miles before the journey’s clear
    there may be rivers
    maybe oceans of tears
    and the very hand that shields your eyes from understanding
    is the hand that will be holding you for miles and miles..nicole nordeman

    By Blogger Beverly, at 2/23/2006 10:50:00 AM  

  • I didn't know Kerri while she was here for what was obviously a very short time on this earth. And I do not know her sweet little girls.

    But I remember our loss when Tom's 33 year old beautiful daughter Kim died in September of 2002 of an aortic aneurym suddenly and without warning leaving her four year old daughter and grieving husband and family.

    So I will hold fast her little girls in my prayers as I pray for our little granddaughter, Hayley.

    And I hold fast to being with Kim one day in Heaven and now know that I will be able to also meet and get to know Kerri, which I greatly look forward to doing.

    Whether she wrote the words about dancing with God or not, they are very expressive of how I view our relationsihp with our Father and with our Savior, Jesus Christ.

    Just two more things:

    These are words written by a young woman, Diana Golden, in the fall of 1996 as she was dying from cancer. They remind me much of what you all have said about Kerri:

    "The autumn leaves
    doing their butterfly dance toward death.
    Such valor they must have
    to dance the dance so gracefully."

    Second - These words you have shared with us, Mike, remind me so very much of the new version of the old time favorite Footprints that someone sent me and I posted months ago on my blog.

    If you all haven't read the new Footprints version, take just a moment to do so (it's a bit long to copy here), because it so wonderfully and beautifully portrays how I've come to see the joy we can have as Christians as we draw ever closer to Jesus and God in our journey home. However long it may be here, or short.

    Somehow I've found that when we are dancing with God, He leads us where and as we need to go.

    By Blogger Dee O'Neil Andrews, at 2/23/2006 11:00:00 AM  

  • Thanks, Mike. On a day when we are struggling with what I want and what my husband wants ... such convicting words. Such honesty.

    By Blogger Jimmy, Tiffany, Abigail and Cooper, at 2/23/2006 11:35:00 AM  

  • Kerri,

    You will never be forgotten!! The legacy of your devotion to the Father will live on through your precious Carlee and Jolee for generations to come and through the lives that were blessed to be shaped and formed by God's Spirit within you. Enjoy Heaven, beloved. Give God a kiss for me and dance in everlasting freedom with your Bridegroom, Kerri. I love you. Thank you for embodying Jesus everyday in all things. Now God just has to pick up the broken pieces of the hearts you left behind.

    By Blogger Lauren, at 2/23/2006 12:46:00 PM  

  • kerri was a beautiful woman, with two beautiful girls. i think her death hurts me mostly cause i know what it's like to be a kid left behind, just like i knew what it was like to have a parent so sick. my heart hurts a lot today because i know all to well a pain similar to that of carlee and jolee, and my pain at the loss of my father is ever present today. but, i think kerri is dancing, and my dad's singing...at least, that's how i like to picture it. it makes it more happy that way. but, as has already been said, we're still left here without them. and that sucks, it really does. and i will miss them both a lot, and will love on those girls as much as i humanly can. blessings to you today.

    By Blogger megs, at 2/23/2006 01:08:00 PM  

  • An absolutely beautiful thought.

    By Blogger Brandon Moore, at 2/23/2006 01:13:00 PM  

  • What an incredible legacy she left for those 2 beautiful and precious girls-I pray that God gives them comfort and peace in the absence of their mother.

    I hope we can all learn from her endurance and joy she held on to through all of her suffering...

    By Blogger Katherine, at 2/24/2006 02:25:00 PM  

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